First post of 2018 yasss! May this year be the year of answers, success and very good vibes for all. And for the love of all that is good, can we please be on each other’s team this year?
SO. Here we are rolling into 2018 as confidently as we have every New Year, with our energies renewed, our eyes shining bright and our get-up-and-go in full force. And with a new year, comes the flood of that phrase, now synonymous with a ‘flash in the pan’, all over our Instagrams, Facebooks, even Twitters; hear the hordes proclaim New Year, New Me.
New Year’s resolutions are as iconic of January as red, green and white are to December (or August, according to most malls). Whether it be fitness goals, quitting smoking, or wearing less black, everyone’s got the mindset to kick their A into G in some way or another. You’ll notice, though, that whenever the topic of resolutions comes up, it’s an almost instant “that won’t last past February”. The backtrack rate of New Year goals is creating a habit of assuming that these things are doomed from the start, right? Here’s some speculation on why these things find their way to the back burner so often.
We bite off more than we can chew.
We often set resolutions that are a serious about face from long-term habits. “I will quit smoking”, “I will go to to gym six times a week”, “I will quit my job and meditate in Sumatra” – these kinds of things are a big thing to tackle if you’ve been smoking for twenty years, or if you prefer quiet walks around the neighbourhood, and definitely if your stiff office job pays well. If we started by breaking these desires down to smaller, more chewable chunks, the results will gain some serious snaps. Small steps still take you where you wanna go, right?
Whose life is it anyway?
It’s a trap we all fall into without even realizing it. We set our resolutions, and we’re amped about it, really throwing our shoulders into it – and then it falls apart. But we’re not torn up about it. So here’s something to consider; did that resolution really come from you? In the social media age, we have a habit of comparing ourselves to others and what they’re doing, how they’re living, how they look, all sorts. When the New Year comes around, sometimes what we want is influenced by what we’ve seen instead of what we’ve acknowledged as a need in ourselves. You want to work at a beach body, but you’re generally not an aesthetically showy person. You want to spend the year travelling, but you’re family-oriented and like to spend a night a week at your mom’s house. So before we dive into the work of changing, it’d bring it closer to home to really think, “is this want for change coming from me?”
Is the me now ready for these changes?
Looking to the future and gunning for all the good things to come is one of the most positive things we can do. But I think what trips us up very often is the fact that we look so far ahead that we don’t notice what we need in the present. Take stock of everything going on with you now. Are you well? Do you need a moment to get to know yourself after some changes in the past? It’s always good to know what you’re working with before you start remodelling. Which is so not to say that we should forget the future and dwell on what we’re doing now! Just get to know where you’ve come from, and where you are now, so you can better think about where to go next.
I’ve been thinking about what my goals are for this year. I’ve set lots of different, grandiose goals in the past (remember the revamp of 2015?) and seen them taper out and disappear. So this year, after taking much needed stock of things, I’ve decided that I need to get to know myself better in order to treat myself better. What that means, I don’t know yet. It could mean the gym, it could mean an extended holiday in a different country – whatever it means, I think it’s a very important step that needs to be taken before I can start doing great things. To start small on this journey, I’m going to start speaking my thoughts more. Like, I know I already speak a lot, but I mean I’m gonna start filtering less. You know? No more sugar-coating and softening the blow. Let’s see how that goes.
ANYWHO. This whole spiel was just a look at why some New Years resolutions don’t stick for as long as one would want, but please please please don’t let anyone ever tell you what you can and can’t achieve, or dictate how you should and shouldn’t achieve it. If you wanna move molehills or crack mountains, you do you. Show them haters.
Baci a tutti per l’anno nuovo x