Pain inflicted by a person you’ve let further in than anyone before has a particular sting. A sting that resonates through you. A sting that incapacitates you – tunnel vision, a dry mouth, a tautness in your muscles. The physiological reactions associated with the fight or flight response in primitive human instinct.
Being judged and scolded like a child by someone no better or wiser than you causes a rise of indignant anger that almost always leads to a taste of bitterness or resentment, be it a faint tinny ring in the back of your mind to a blaring siren of defiance. In any case, the anger grows stronger still when, upon following suit in a significantly more tactful manner, you are informed in no uncertain terms that you have no place to do such.
All this correction and reproach hurt more than any insult, simply because the reason you let the person in in the first place is the fact that they assured you that they loved even the things they didn’t like about you.
Aisle Alter Hymn.